My best friend from college–my college roommate–married my oldest step-brother in 1995 and became my sister-in-law.
I was her maid of honor. I was there when she gave birth. I am their son’s godmother. We’ve been there for each other through the deaths of beloved family members, family dramas, and my step-brother’s diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. Oh and let’s not forget my step-mother’s lupus and other assorted health problems, and my schizophrenic father’s suicide.
Some of my best memories come from times we have spent together shopping, exploring cemetaries, camping and crawling through caves, cruising and getting lost on road trips, and bar hopping.
Tomorrow, she meets with a surgeon to schedule a biopsy. He’s the “best breast health guy in the region.” Over the last three weeks she has gone from finding a lump, to a mammogram, to an ultrasound, and an MRI. It doesn’t look good. Cysts have been ruled out. She has been told that it is most likely breast cancer. She has already made the decision that if the biopsy confirms cancer she will have a double mastectomy–I can’t even imagine having to make that decision.
She’s three and half months younger than me.
I’m scared for her…. and for me and the rest of her friends and family. But mostly for her.
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The fact that she’s taking some really fast steps towards an end is HUGE for her. She is extremely lucky to have an awesome support system through you.
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A dear friend of mine was diagnosed with breast cancer just over a year ago. She was 33. I sobbed like a bitch when she told me. I automatically thought she was going to die. Fastforward through a year, the double mastectomy, reconstruction, chemo, hair loss,depression, etc. She now has a clean bill of health. Thank GOD. She can beat it. Be there for her. She will go through an enormous range of emotions. Tell her to be strong. I will keep her in my prayers. It is so scary. I always thought it was for older people. It can hit anyone.
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WHOA WHOA WHOA! Please, at least one second opinion before the double, ok?
Yes, she can beat it, and maybe the double is the only way. Just be sure with this woman you, and your family, love so much.
My mom is a survivor and her first doc gave her an explanatory comic book and scheduled her for a double. I insisted on a second opinion, and that doc told Mom a single was a done deal at her stage, but depending on testing of the lymph nodes a double would be decided with her later. Her nodes were clear (ok, she was in her 70’s and younger folks have more aggressive cancer), so only a single was indicated.
I’m just trying to say that a second opinion is worth whatever cost. You can’t get your body parts back.
I’m sorry cancer in someone you love has come to you, A.
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She is very lucky to have you. Much luck from Canada to your friend.
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Cancer sucks. Sending good vibes that the biopsy comes back negative.
You’re a good friend.
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Oh my goodness!! Why must cancer exist? I’ve got another dear friend going through it right now. This is crazy.
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