He gives great advice. Really. Even though, he’s the king of cliches sometimes, he still just gives really good thoughtful advice. And he cares enough about his friends and family to make the effort.
One of my husband’s good friends is expecting his first baby in the next couple of months. This friend, K, and his wife are great people. I don’t know her that well but I’ve been around K enough to know what kind of person he is. He’s just a good guy. He doesn’t curse, he’s polite, he’s smart, and was just raised right. In many ways he and my husband are quite different, and I love that they are good friends because K is a grounding influence on Snoring Daddy where a lot of his other friends are flakes or maybe they are just typical guys who have that typical asshole/jackass streak–SD has a good sized jackass streak with a little bit of asshole spotted throughout. Despite how I rave on him in these posts, he’s by no means perfect. But K is not a typical guy. I’ve never seen or heard of a hint of asshole or jackass anywhere in his personality. He’s exceptional.
Snoring Daddy and K share a love for cars and all things muscle and hot rod. They work on a lot of projects together and the other night as they worked they talked about K’s impending fatherhood. Snoring Daddy asked if everyone had put in their two cents worth on the baby and what to expect and how to raise her.
K: “Oh yeah. ”
SD: “Well, the only thing I will tell you–and its something no one ever told us–is take care of your marriage. Make sure you take the time to work on it. It’s too easy to let the baby consume your lives, but you have to take care of your marriage.”
K: “Yeah. No one has said that. And I hadn’t really thought about it. You’re right.”
SD: “Ammie and I take time at least once a month, take the kids up to their grandmother’s and spend the weekend alone. We go to a movie or go out to eat or just hang out, but the point is to spend time together, alone as a couple. It’s really important. People say ‘I’m a parent first’ but no, you aren’t. Yeah, being a parent is important but you were a husband before that and you have to be a good husband to be able to be a good father, too.”
That’s why I love him.
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That is probably the sweetest thing that I have ever heard from one guy to another. He’s a keeper.
Hey thanks for the nod! And holy crap, your husband has grown up a lot since the last time I saw him!
Really good! You are lucky. I think I said that in my last comment too!
Oh wow! He really does get it. And it’s so very true. It’s easy for a marriage to get lost in the wayside after a baby comes. Sounds like you have yourself a good guy.